Your Life is Never Longer Than Experiencing Everything by Yourself

Have you ever asked yourself why there is too much people around you?

Have you ever been waiting for someone’s reply to your question to make an effective decision in your life?

Have you ever asked yourself why people are mostly conducting in the same way and why their desires are almost the same?

Learning from each other is exactly the same as exchanging a class content between classmates, at the end, your life is a show and the main character is you, beside this, the great occasions will be made by yourself with little touches from people whom you have been learning from.

If you have ever asked yourself those questions, then you are a grown human being! Though, people have more matching points with each other than unmatching ones. Sometimes human beings make mistakes no matter if they were warned of making those mistakes way before getting into the situation or not because the aftermath became another memorable part in their lives. Now I guess you started thinking that the title is worth to be considered.

A deep gaze over people’s experience would be an intelligible step to be taken before making any decision in your life, not in form of mimicking them, but learning from them and trying not to make the same mistakes that they have done before! Try to grasp the importance of listening to people who had a lot of experiences and implement the ones that match the situation you are in. You can never find a human being who doesn’t make mistakes, because the starting point of the circle of life, is making mistake, and the ending point is learning, and it rounds again. Please remember that your faults are meant to happen, but the repairing must be more focused on. Here I am going to brighten your path towards learning from explaining the concept of listening:

What Is the Concept of Listening?

“Listen by your heart and mind, not your ears!”

I am pretty much sure that you have been advised more than what you ever imagine, but at the end you made lots of mistakes and I am sure that you regret not listening! Let me tell you why did not you benefit from advices. You may get surprised, but you did not have listened at all! Looking at advisers’ mouth and thinking about their words for a while is not called listening!

Nothing will help you more than the concept of “listening to body language”. Whenever someone talks to you, look at the way he interacts with you. Whenever you interact with people, you are continuously sharing wordless signals and messages with each other. Sometimes, the person “the talker” could be far away from you, so you have to read his voice from your phone! Or, the person may be texting you, not calling you, then you have to read his texts letter by letter.

For further explanation of the concept of listening by body language, you have to consider the seven types of nonverbal communication. Facial expressions, body movement and posture, gestures, eye contact, space in between, voice, and touch.

Human facial expression is the most effective and expressive. You can tell if someone is sad, happy, angry, surprised, afraid or disgusted by focusing on their facial expressions. Body movement is another effective way of listening to someone. You can tell if someone is in hurry or relaxed just by the way he sits, walks, stand or holds his head. Waving by hands and head is called gesturing. If someone gives signals to you while talking, it means they want you to better focus with them. Eye contacting is the fastest and easiest way to understand anyone. An eye contact may end up getting a fight with your partner. Also, it reveals someone’s feeling about you (Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, and Greg Boose, June 2019).

A weak handshake and a warm bear hug can tell you so many things about people. Try to measure the space between you and your partner. It affects sending signals to each other. Voice, sometimes it is read! How loud you speak and your tone of voice say much things about you. Your voice can indicate affection, anger, or confidence (Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., Melinda Smith, M.A., Lawrence Robinson, and Greg Boose, June 2019).

Now, you know about the seven types of nonverbal communication. Get ready to know how to use that information to learn the concept of listening! Whenever you get to communicate with your partner, do not forget to remind yourself these short points:

Scan facial expressions: happy, sad, surprise, fear, and anger.

Focus on body movement and posture: way of walking, standing, sitting, and holding head.

Gestures: moving hands while talking.

Quick eye contacting before starting the communication (face to face): interest, affection, hostility, or attraction.

Touching: handshaking and a warm hug

Space in between: too much space in between or not.

Voice: loudness of sound, tone: sarcasm, anger, affection, or attraction.



“The one whom you will ask for getting experience from, will use all of the seven ways of nonverbal communication while talking to you!”

If he expresses a happy facial expression, then he is happy to let you know about him.

If he talks with a smile and a soft tone of voice, then his major purpose is you to carefully listen to him.

If he pushes up his eyebrows while shaking hands with you, then he is happy to hear really from you!

If he moves his hands while talking about his experiences, then he definitely wants you to engage with his talking and understand why he had done something or not.

I’ll leave the other points to be realized by yourself, then you will definitely learn the concept of listening!

In conclusion, might this article have come to you by chance, but it may help you for the rest of your life. It is up to you whether you want to listen or not. If you like to make a try, I am sure you will not regret it, but if you want to ignore this, then never blame anyone for your mistakes!